Best Advise Wednesdays

Listen more than you speak.

You were given two ears and one mouth for a reason. Perhaps it’s because you were meant to spend more time listening than speaking.
As humans, one of our basic needs is to feel heard, seen and understood. When you honor someone else with your undivided attention, you help assuage their anxiety, wash away their worry and find clarity in the chaos. Because you’re showing them that, despite how bad things might seem, they’re not alone.
Listen intently. Don’t just hear the words and syllables—listen so you can understand and relate. Listen to learn. Open your mind up to comprehend what’s happening in the world around you and within you. Listen to empathize. Open your heart up to imagine what someone else is going through.
Sometimes, we just need someone to lend an ear. The more adept you are at doing so, the better. And the more likely you are to get the same in return.

Shalom✌️

"Who never masturbates hands in the air? No hands"
 
Millions of people have been victims of masturbation  (including myself). I have sought help on how to stop it, as many people also have, but you know, in the end, I always seem to go back. Many people think it's because they are single, but I've seen people who also do it while in relationships.
 
One of the many pieces of advice I've received online from people on how to stop masturbation was to read your Bible, stay close to God, and pray. It didn't work as well. The feeling after masturbating tells you that you have done wrong, but Google tells you otherwise.
 
Using myself as an example, let me tell you the truth. If you want to stop masturbating, you have to actually, I repeat, actually stop being alone all the time, my friend. You have too much free time on your hands. That's why you think of masturbating all the time.
 
Here's what I do now. Of course the thought would come in, but I go to a place where I am not alone and stay there until the thought goes away. The secret to stopping masturbation isn't only or actually about reading your Bible and staying close to God, it's actually about discipline.
You don't have self control over your emotions and yourself. That's why you can't stop masturbating every time you see the slightest opportunity and then you hate yourself after you cum. I used to be like that and I didn't know how to grow anymore. It was always pulling me down.
 
At that very moment, the thought comes up that you just need to force yourself to leave the area immediately. I'll stop here for now to avoid a very lengthy post.
 
Like this post if you want to see me talk about how to also avoid masturbating during your bedtime. That one is the worst.