Child Molestation is known as child sexual abuse. It is a secret crime involving a range of indecent sexual activities between an adult and a child.

According to the National Violence Against Children Survey, it established that 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 10 boys experience sexual violence before the age of 18 in one way or the other.

TYPES OF MOLESTATION:

Defilement

Rape

Fingering

Making a child watch pornography

Exposing the genital to kids

Indecent touching

Fondling etc

WHO COULD ABUSE YOUR CHILD?
ANYBODY
Studies show that over 95% of sexually abused children are abused by persons known or close to the child or the child′s family.

ABUSERS ARE MOSTLY NOT STRANGERS.
They are right there in your house, co-tenants, family members, lesson teachers, neighbours. Their friends in school, hostel, classmates,class/school teachers, cousins, uncles, nephew, niece, fathers, step fathers, grand fathers, imams, choir masters, pastors, confidants, security guard, maids, family /school drivers, After school teachers , teachers, mummy′s friend, daddy′s friend, caregivers, strangers........ the list can go on.
Please, do not ask if any of the above is possible because, there is no case of any of the above that has not happened.

CAUSES OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE
Parental negligence, carelessness, non-challant attitude.
It is as bad as No one can be trusted. We have a child presently carrying a baby that belongs to her father.

OTHER CAUSES:

Absentee parents.

Parents who do not observe.

When the kids are not informed.....

What you watch with your kids.

Indecent dressing by our children.

WHERE CAN YOUR CHILD BE SEXUALLY ABUSED?

On your bed

Right under your nose, under your roof

In the school environment- class, toilet etc

Hostel

Parties

In their room (siblings)

Deserted/Abandoned places

When you are distracted etc.

Perpetrators look for opportunities. 5mins is enough to cause a life long damage.

HOW DO PAEDOPHILES GET THE VICTIMS?
1.Grooming
2.Baits

a. Emotional bait

b. Gift bait

c. Financial bait

d. Familiarity & Respect bait.

3. Child grooming
Befriending and establishing an emotional connection with a child, and sometimes the family, to lower the child′s inhibitions with the objective of sexual abuse. -Wikipedia-
Gaining the trust of a minor with the intention of having sex relationship with them.

HOW TO IDENTIFY A POSSIBLE ABUSER:

A. Always trying to be around your child or vice versa

B. Child feels uncomfortable when he/she sights the abuser or when the abuser is around.

C. Easily and conveniently accept to care for your child while you are away.

D. Can be hard on the child especially if the child is rejecting his moves.

If any of the above is observed, please, shine your eyes. Or sometimes, your child might feel uncomfortable/rejecting to go to the person when you send him or her Or even go for holiday.

Sexual abuse happens among sibblings, set rules, separate their rooms, separate their beds.
We had a case of twins having sex with each other. When they were asked, they said: we see mum and dad do same.

Why should we be that careless?
Because of the carelessness of both parents, their innocent minds were polluted and their lives were destroyed.

WHAT A PERPETRATOR SAYS TO A CHILD WILLING TO SPEAK OUT:

I will kill you

You will die

Your mummy will hate you

Your mummy will beat you

Your mummy will blame you.

Your mummy and your daddy will die.

He could cut the child, lick the blood and say: this is a blood convenant between us, the day you tell is the day you die.

Teach your child The SRR action.

S - Shout/scream

R - Run

R - Report

POSSIBLE SIGNS THAT YOUR CHILD HAS BEEN ABUSED:

Isolation

Aggressiveness

Anxiety/Fear

Difficulty in walking

Sudden drop in academic performance

Poor social interaction; and so on.

OTHERS

Sexually Transmitted Diseases.

Their dressing is important, dress to cover them please. Teach them privacy.
They must knock and seek permission before they enter your room.
It is wrong to bath them together irrespective of sex.

PLEASE NOTE!
children never lie about abuse If your child tells you someone is trying to mess with him or her.... Please believe the child and respond appropriately.

EFFECT OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE

The abused child could become a serial abuser

Depression

Suicidal thoughts

Stigma

Guilt

Lifelong psychological trauma

Aggression

Withdrawn

Infected with STDs; Etc

THE BOYS
More often than not, we pay more attention to the girls than the boys.
With my years of experience, boys are mostly victims- anal sex but because we do not pay attention.
For them, healing is a terrible process.

WATCH OVER YOUR BOYS
Something might just be happening and you perceive not. Do not be a hard mum. Strike a balance between love and discipline.

Give your children Sex Education proportional to their age. A child of age 2 or even less is due for Sex Education.

Tell them what nobody must do with their body.

Tell them to speak out.

In the house, everyone must respect one another′s privacy.

Child molestation is real, it is more painful if it happens under your very nose.
Please bond more with our Jewels, we want to receive them back to school bigger and better than they left. Above all, pray for them always. The child molesters will not go near them but we must play our part

Keep staying safe.

Let me share with you this inspiring story of a local cultural dancer, who needed to raise N70,000 for the treatment of his sick child. He decided to organize a stage dance to raise the funds.
He designed a flier and started sharing it around his neighborhood during the day and rehearsing his dance routine in the night.
His expectations were very high.
Then the day came.
The stage was set and it was time.

To his disappointment, it was ONLY a small teenage boy that showed up for the event.
But he told himself, “I won′t chicken out, I must dance and give my best.“
Then he started dancing.
He made sure he gave his best as rehearsed to the admiration of the boy.
After the show, the boy left and the man went home sorrowful.
Status quo remains.
He was devastated and depressed.

But something surprising happened the following morning.
The only boy that showed up for the show was the son of a wealthy man. He had always wanted to be a dancer and his father had approved it.
The boy had been charged with the responsibility to get a personal trainer and coach.
Unknown to the dancer, he was auditioning for a job.
The wealthy man called the dancer and gave him a contract to train his son with an upfront payment that cleared his bills.

One of the mindset you need to have to achieve more results whether in business, academics, marriage or in life generally, is to always outstretch yourself to exceed your previous limits.

It is very important to always push yourself beyond the limits.

It was late one morning in December 1982 when a Baton Rouge housewife (Louisiana, USA) saw someone approaching her home in the city′s Hundred Oaks neighborhood. She opened the door, unsure if it was a carpenter or plumber returning from their lunch break. The woman realized almost immediately that it was neither, but instead a man who had knocked on her door weeks earlier asking for directions. Suddenly the intruder overpowered her and ordered her upstairs, where he held her at knifepoint and raped her repeatedly, then stabbed her twice and escaped after the victim′s friend walked in on the horrific scene.
The days and months that followed would have unexpected and irreversible consequences not only for the victim herself but also for Archie Charles Williams, who was exonerated just last week after spending almost four decades in prison for the brutal attack that occurred that morning — a crime Williams did not commit. His 1983 conviction — based almost solely on the victim′s positive identification of him in a photo lineup — allowed the real rapist to spend the next several years continuing to terrorize women across Baton Rouge.
Police finally arrested Stephen Forbes (the culprit) in 1986 after finding him on the scene of another attempted rape in progress. He confessed to four additional rapes in the same area, some with distinct similarities to the Hundred Oaks attack where Archie was arrested but Archie was never freed. Recent developments in fingerprint technology matched Forbes’ finger print to finger print evidence collected at that scene for the first time in March 2019, resulting in Williams′ exoneration and eventual release.
Archie Williams was incarcerated for 37years of his life on that trumped up charge of rape. He didn′t commit the crime, yet he was made to pay for it with 37years of his adulthood. Four different testifiers said Archie was at home on the said day and could not have been on the crime scene. But the victim insisted it was he whom he saw.

One thing though, Archie was never broken. He did everything he could to remain positive even in the prison. See friend, whatever happens in life you MUST NEVER EVER get broken.

Last week, Archie auditioned before a 3,500 crowd at America’s Got Talent. It was an emotional night as he shared the story of his courage, resilience and ultimate triumph.

Williams was featured on the latest season of “America′s Got Talent,“ and fans of the show got a sneak peek at his audition Friday through the show′s social media accounts. The audition is the realization of a long-held dream for Williams, who said he watched the popular NBC talent show while incarcerated, with dreams of one day making it to the big stage. “I watched ′America′s Got Talent′ in prison, and I would visualize myself being there,“ he said. “I always desired to be on a stage like this, and now I′m here. Thank God. I know it′s the chance of a lifetime.“ Williams says.

When he was asked “How did you survive it?“ Archie said “Freedom is of the mind. I went to prison but I never let my mind go to prison“
In the audition, Williams showcases his talent with a performance of Elton John′s classic “Don′t Let the Sun Go Down on Me“ that left the show′s four judges — including the notoriously blunt Simon Cowell — and audience in a tearful awe. Cowell even shared the footage on Twitter a message mirroring the comments he left for Williams following his performance.
“Archie, I will never, ever listen to that song in the same way ever again after you sang that. It took on a whole new meaning for me,“ Cowell told Williams in his critique. “You′re a very, very courageous person. By the way, you have a really good voice — you really, really do.
“This is an audition I will never forget for the whole of my life, Archie.“ Those were the words of Simon Cowell, show host.
That night all four judges on the show gave Archie the nod to go on to the finals of America′s got talent.
Whatever your situation may be today please be encouraged. There is a bright light that is about to show on the horizon. Do know as you continue to hang in there that God is coming for you and it would change everything again for you. It would be a new beginning. And don’t forget, please encourage someone out there also.

Stay positive minded and have yourself a great year.

APRIL full of abundant blessings.

APRIL full of good health.

APRIL full of favour.

APRIL full of mercy.

APRIL full of fruitfulness.

APRIL full of joy.

APRIL full of God′s goodness.

APRIL full of honor.

APRIL full of progress.

APRIL full of gainful and productive ideas.

APRIL full of promotion.

APRIL full of God′s help.

APRIL full of fame.

APRIL full of financial breakthrough.

APRIL full of all goodies of life

APRIL full of a closer walk with God

Welcome to your month of FULLNESS from God. Happy new month
Stay home and stay safe

1. FOR EVERY INDIVIDUAL CHRISTIANS

... Particularly those of you who are Members of The Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG).

This Year (2020) is going to be A YEAR OF SERIES OF JOYS.
The reason is that it is going to be a Year of “Series of Victories“.

Now by implications, it means that it will be a Year of “Series of Battles“.
... But you will WIN!

And that is why He asked me to tell you in advance that “The Battle is Not Yours“.
... It will be Victories after Victories; Shout of Joy after shout of Joy.

Let me just leave it like that.

2. The others particularly for those of you who are Members of The Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG); your Pastors will be telling you.

3. INTERNATIONAL SCENE (INCLUDING NIGERIA)

On the International Scene and we are going to rope Nigeria with the International Scene because there are some People who are waiting for what we will say concerning Nigeria - Nigeria is part of the world ok!

The Earth this Year (2020) unless we Pray very hard is going to behave like a child that is having CONVULSION.
... Earthquakes in many Places that it has never happened before and that is one of the reason that you should Pray for Nigeria.
Volcanoes that has been dormant for years erupting.

If you look at the Prophesies for Year 2019 for the International Scene; I gave it to you as a Bible Passage - Two (2) Bible Passages - You will see Fire and Flood.

But the Lord said that whatever we have seen last Year (2019) is nothing compared with what is Coming in Year (2020).
Except His children will Pray so that His Healing Hands can be upon the Nations of the world.
... And the reason is that SIN is becoming far, far more rampant than before. Things that in the Past will not even be mentioned is now being celebrated and God is Angry.

But if we should Pray and which is one of the reason that we should Evangelise rapidly, God will Help.

This Year; there will be CHANGES of Governments all over the world in many Places.
Some of the Changes will be Peaceful while some will not be Peaceful.

God says In this new year, he will answer prayers.

John 6:27 LABOUR not for the meat which perisheth, but for that meat which endureth unto everlasting life, ...

It is interesting that in the text above Jesus did not say don’t labour at all . Rather he says channel your efforts profitably, to the most important thing which is eternal life. When you live by the principles that win eternal life, winning earthly goals will be pretty easy (Matt 6:33). It is like laboring to find a river, if you find it, filling your bottles with water wouldn’t be a problem. But if all your efforts were towards possessing few bottles of water, your sustenance will not be assured.

But that we′re told to labour means that eternal life isn’t going to be cheap! “The kingdom of heaven is like treasure HIDDEN in a field…” (Matt 13:44). That is, the blessings of the Kingdom of God are deeply kept. It takes dogged diggers, tenacious and unrelenting searchers to find and appropriate them.

Jesus says “STRIVE to enter in at the strait gate” (Lk 13:24). Heb 4:11 says “Therefore let us BE DILIGENT to enter that rest”. Phil 2:12 says “WORK OUT your own salvation with fear and trembling”. These verses emphasize that getting the superior blessings of eternal life is more than just believing in the name of Jesus. There is a labour, diligent effort, and striving required of you. God’s grace for greatness and eternal life are heavenly provision, obtainable only by hardworking believers who will relentlessly pursue and contend for it. I identify at least two unavoidable labour to get the kingdom blessings.

First is the labour in search of the kingdom mysteries. “SEARCH THE SCRIPTURES; for in them ye think YE HAVE ETERNAL LIFE: and they are they which testify of me” (Jhn 5:39). God’s principles for life (marriage, health, finance, business) are unfailing and rewarding but they are hidden in the scriptures. You can’t get it by glancing through the bible. You need to prayerfully search the word and listen to Christian messages till you discover the kingdom mystery and God’s purpose for you.

The second is the labour in taking action. It is not enough to know the mysteries of God. Wisdom is the application of knowledge. The display of wisdom is manifested in the utilization of God’s secret to achieve your goals, in the exercising of your faith to achieve the impossible and in the taking of necessary action toward accomplishing your purpose . “Now that you know these things, YOU WILL BE BLESSED IF YOU DO THEM” (John 13:17).

The blessing of knowledge is in the “doing”! The discovery you do nothing about will not benefit you. The truth you will discover in the word of God includes action to take to get a good husband, get a good job, live in good health, to become rich … and to make heaven. Such discovery may include the power of praying, fasting, humility, holiness, loving, diligence, giving, attitudinal change, improving your professional skills, asking, and some uncommon step of faith. Those who labour to discover the secrets of God and will labour to act on them shall be outstanding in every area of life and shall make heaven!

When people use the word “entrepreneur? to describe themselves as though it?s a new acronym for “jobless but passing time“, I laugh. I laugh because I know that entrepreneurship is service to humanity. I laugh because a true entrepreneur disdained a great many easier choices to walk that road alone. On a day like this I think it is important to give a word of hope to someone out there who?s been trudging this road with much resolve and little result.

Sometimes, business coaches sound as though the problem is with just inconsistency or lack of intensity or product-market mismatch and on and on and on. The reality is that sometimes you will do it ALL right and still get no result. What do you do at such times?- Hang in there!!!
See brother, you cannot afford to go back. Not just because of you but because of the many destinies that depend on you. As entrepreneurs, we are life givers. We carry the destinies and means of other men on our shoulders. So, if you go back, you?re taking a few people with you.

Let me share with you the PRINCIPLE OF COMPOUNDED EFFECT!
It states that “Every major life occurrence; failure or success is a product of several events whose effects are multiplied daily on the eventual outcome? Your marketing efforts might look like a waste because you are not yet getting results, but NO, it is not! Your knowledge acquisition might look like a waste of time because you are not yet making money, but NO, it is not!

Dear business owner, my heart speaks to you this morning because I feel your pain. Hang in there! Stay the course. You cannot go back, no, not at this point. You are gone past half the journey to Canaan! You can?t go back now! Not just because of you but because of your many destiny benefactors. If you fail, you are not just going to account in Heaven for your failure. You will also account for theirs. If you keep showing up for your dreams faithfully, it will not be long before your dream will show up for you. IT WILL HAPPEN THIS YEAR. GO OUT YET AGAIN TODAY AND LIVE THAT DREAM.

Happy new month.

This chart explains how the color of your tongue may indicate information about your health status.

Some people have argued that letting children know about the rapture and events of the last days is tantamount to scaring them. The truth is that no parents who understand the need for their children to take part in the rapture will deprive them of knowing about such an all important global event. You need to empower them with all available information about rapture so as to prepare them to partake in it.

Moreover, there is no better time to teach them about the end time events than now. Start teaching them now. Use every available medium and method to teach them. Take advantage of social media to reach those that are staying far away from you.

Reason why you should teach your children about the end time event:

It gives them comfort and assurance

It keeps them on guard

It equips them with biblical doctrines

It gets them prepare for the rapture.

MARCH BIRTHDAY
Daddy odunbaku
-2nd March.

Molayo Ogunfowora
-2nd March.

Mummy Toyin Adefila
-11t March.

Pemisire Bello
-14th March.

Akpata Victoria
-18th March.

Bro Seun Falua
-19th March.

Yahaya Faith
-19th March.

Yahaya David
-22nd March.

Ukim Akanimo
-22nd March.

Sis. Bola Ajebo
-23rd March.

Oyabunmi Demilade
-24th March.

Oduniyi Tunde
-24th March.

Bro. Adekunle Oluwafemi
-25th March.

Uloko Christoper
-31st March.

1. Watermelon Juice May Relieve Muscle Soreness.
If you have a juicer, try juicing about one-third of a fresh watermelon and drink its juice prior to your next workout. This contains a little over one gram of l-citrulline, an amino acid that seems to protect against muscle pain.
One study found that men who drank natural unpasteurized watermelon juice prior to their workouts had reduced muscle soreness 24 hours later compared to those who drank a placebo.
You do need to be careful with drinking watermelon juice, though, as it contains a significant amount of fructose. It may be better to eat the entire fruit, or opt for these other tips to prevent muscle soreness.

2. Watermelon Is a Fruit and a Vegetable.
Remember how watermelon is related to cucumbers, pumpkin, and squash? That′s because it′s part vegetable and part fruit (it′s a sweet, seed-producing plant, after all).The other clue that watermelon is both fruit and vegetable? The rind is entirely edible.

3. You Can Eat Watermelon Rind and Seeds.
Most people throw away the watermelon rind, but try putting it in a blender with some lime for a healthy, refreshing treat. Not only does the rind contain plenty of health-promoting and blood-building chlorophyll, but the rind actually contains more of the amino acid citrulline than the pink flesh.
While many people prefer seedless watermelon varieties, black watermelon seeds are edible and actually quite healthy. They contain iron, zinc, protein, and fiber. (In case you are wondering, seedless watermelons aren′t genetically modified, as they′re the result of hybridization.)

4. It′s Mostly Water.
This might not be surprising, but it′s still a fun fact; watermelon is more than 91 percent water.This means that eating watermelon on a hot summer day is a tasty way to help you stay hydrated and avoid dehydration (However, it′s not a substitute for drinking plenty of fresh water.).

5. Some Watermelon Are Yellow.
The Yellow Crimson watermelon has yellow flesh with a sweeter, honey flavor than the more popular pink-fleshed Crimson Sweet. It′s likely that yellow watermelon offers its own unique set of nutritional benefits, but most research to date has focused on the pink-fleshed varieties.