Olarinoye Ajibola @ajibola33

FROM MY INBOX (79)

I knew this man in d year 2014 and got pregnant for him in 2016 (not for the first time though) but he saw I wasn't ready to abort that one so he told me categorically he doesn't want to be a father at that moment cos he was jobless, so I accepted my fate and that was d end of the pregnancy.

Later, I moved on and after sometimes, he came back begging promising me not to ever repeat such thing again,(my first mistake)I forgave him due to I wasn't in any relationship with anyone since he left, so we continue d relationship with d fact that I realized he was hiding me for his sister, due to what he has told some of his friends n family abt me.

He didn't hide his behaviors during d courtship cos he really showed me pepper. We can't stay a week without fighting, everybody around me saw how he used to behave immaturely and asked me to leave but I was afraid of starting another relationship, so we continue,d following year which was 2017.

I got pregnant again n he still did d same thing (less I forget that d first pregnancy,it took every of my friends n some people begging him for me) but this one again,it took his brother n his sister to talk to him to accept d pregnancy, not that he was my first boyfriend but I just don't like dating different guy, I have met so many rich guys that I choosed him over them cos I believed we can start together.

He is a graduate but he didn't use his certificate to do anything, so I sha moved into his house(not his house like that but is one of elder sister's house) though they are not living there,so he stayed alone in the compand.

We did introduction after that n since then ave been into this mess,he cheat so many times that I caught him n he will still shout n tell me it is normal for men to cheat but woman cannot try such. I accepted my fate, never wanted to leave my marriage.

I had 3 children for him,am 40 years n he's 49. He and his family frustrated me till I was depressed n left d marriage but after some months, we settled not that he came to beg but d fear of allowing another man having things with me n my children not having proper care makes me go back.

When I got back, I realized he came back because he doesn't have money again to chase girls like b4 n he can no longer take care of the children alone cos he didn't allow me to go with my children.

He has never worked in his entire life,I married him cos my mates were getting married n I knw very well he doesn't have a work but I keep defending him whenever my friends n family ask me where he works. Now, he has misused all d opportunity for him to get a better life like setting up a business for himself cos he saw big money worth millions n he wasted it on fun but yet he likes to flex n frolicking around.

I see him as someone who is not ready to work or get something doing, he's just a dependent (on family n friend)but he can't work,I ave my own business that am doing n is making me to sort my bills though not all cos is not all d responsibility at home I took.

He is a caring father to his children,he take care of our children n he doesn't joke with any thing they need. he's always been there for d children but am sick n tired of a man that doesn't ave a work n not ready to get one.

He will sleep from morning till night and when we need to sort somethings at home he will be making calls, calling people to help him. He likes to show off, go to party and spray money he didn't work for.

In short, I am tired of a lazy n a jobless man that has spoiled me for all his family that most of them don't want to see me.

Please, I knw I caused all this for my self but I still need advice on what to do, should I just b praying for mercy of God or quit?