Love

Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable and it keeps no record of being wronged.

There's an adage in Yoruba language that's translated to mean if a chicken pours my medicine away, I will also break it's eggs in return. This is not the way of love, love turns the other cheek and doesn't keep referring to the wrong being done by others, love forgives easily. To love means to be counter cultural, because culture might say if someone hurts you you should do the same to them, but love says if someone hurts you– forgive them.
Check again are you loving right?